Take control

People cannot control me. They cannot make my life choices for me. Every thing that occurs in my life is by my accord. There maybe some things that are destiny however; other people are not the deciding factor on how I handle the situation. No one has that right. No one can take away my freedom of choice or my free will. They do not have the right to make me feel inadequate or inept.

Every person has the ability to be strong, courageous, brave, powerful, intelligent, adventurous, or any other adjective he or she chooses. If others being to control you then you lose this ability. Ultimately losing yourself, breaking your spirit, and becoming someone you cannot even recognize. Waiting for an answer from someone else is not going to solve the problems that you carry on your shoulders. Only you yourself can do this. Do not believe I feel you must carry a burden alone.

There is a vast difference from a support system and a controlling system. One must be able to recognize this. A support system is vital to survival. These are the people you can be vulnerable with. People that will love you no matter the choices you make. They hold your hand when you are at your lowest. They carry you up the mountain when your legs give away. These people are the people that draw you out of darkness. A controlling system draws you into darkness. They create a monster from the person you once were. They cause you to question your abilities, your knowledge, and your own strength. They make you feel powerless. If you lose control it is a slippery slope down hill. The world beings to crumble around you.

Take control. Make your own decisions. Take responsibility for mistakes. Ask for help. Do not let your world spiral out of control. When it spirals is it hard to reign it back in. Step back from the situation and look with fresh eyes. Do not be afraid to breath and accept that you may not be prepared for what lays ahead. It is okay to be scared; however, it is not okay to run from the fear.

Often times we act in opposition of a suggestion of command simple because the person giving the directions has not earned trust or seems to not be looking at you as an individual. This creates rash choices with usually severe consequences. The harder an individual is pushed the worse the retaliation. There is little thought over what actually may be best or where that path will lead. Sadly, it makes all other suggestion go unheard. This is human instinct. The essence of reverse psychology. People feel if their freedom is being taken then they must fight with all their heart to keep that said freedom. This has benefits and drawbacks.

By standing and fighting for your rights you are not allowing yourself to be controlled. You are not allowing someone to break you. However, you may not be doing what is ultimately the correct choice for you. It may not be what you feel is best. Furthermore, it may only cause more unwanted stress. This is the moment to step back from the situation and look at what your feelings tell you. That is how you truly take control.

Do not feel that by succumbing to the suggestion is admitting defeat. You must come to terms with an idea on your own. It must be something you know is the right thing to do. Moreover, if you mind says the suggestion is the right thing to do; do not purposely fight it because it was an unwanted suggestion.

Once you have made your own decision, once you have stopped waiting for others to decide, once you have come to terms with the outcome you want, then there is a release inside. It is as if the pressure in a tire is slowing being let out. There is an ability to breath. There is return of your power, your strength, and your focus. The pieces fit together and life seems as normal as a life can be. Sometimes it is hard to stay in control. Sometimes it is hard to admit defeat. Life is not in control you are, therefore take it.